

Who’s bankrolling the bridal shower—that pre-wedding bash buzzing with gifts, giggles, and games galore? Is it the maid of honor, gripping her budget like a lifeline? Bridesmaids, splitting costs like a potluck? Or the bride’s mom, swooping in with cash and a wink? As a wedding insider who’s seen wallets weep and parties pop, I’m cracking this cash conundrum—blending old rules, new twists, and pro tricks to keep everyone grinning.
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Back in the day—think dowries and petticoats—the bridal shower was a practical affair. Friends “showered” the bride with pots and pans, and the maid of honor, with her bridesmaid posse, picked up the tab. Etiquette stuck to this script: the bridal party handled invites, snacks, and that frilly decor, while the bride played guest of honor, wallet zipped shut. Brides nods to this vibe, noting it’s still a go-to in many circles—think a $400 backyard bash split five ways at $80 a pop.
But here’s the rub: what worked for tea parties doesn’t always stretch to today’s rooftop brunches or weekend getaways. Tradition’s cute, but when the bill hits four figures, those bridesmaid budgets start sweating.
Fast forward to now, and the shower scene’s a free-for-all—in the best way. Costs are climbing (The Knot pegs averages at $300-$2,000), and the “bridesmaids only” rule is bending. Moms and aunts are crashing the party, hosting or co-hosting when the maid of honor’s tapped out from bachelorette duties. We find this shift: the mother of the bride might snag the venue, leaving decor to the squad.
Then there’s the couple’s shower twist—co-ed vibes where bride and groom both shine. You can call it “wedding shower,” and I’ve seen couples foot the bill themselves, especially for laid-back affairs. Digital tricks like crowdfunding (think Honeyfund) add flair too—guests toss in $10 or $20, easing the load. The game’s changed: bridesmaids might lead, but family, fiancés, and friends are all grabbing a piece of the action.
Who pays isn’t just etiquette—it’s a cultural mashup. In Italy, the bride’s mom often rules the roost, paying as a big-hearted send-off. Some Asian families pool cash across cousins and uncles, making it a village vibe. Down South in the U.S., potluck showers keep wallets happy with BYO pies. Compare that to a NYC loft bash with artisanal cocktails, and you’ve got a whole different beast. Point is, location tweaks the tab—adapt or bust.
After years of watching showers unfold—from budget wins to bank-breaking flops—here’s my call: the bill goes to whoever’s got the cash and the heart to make it happen. Tradition’s got charm—bridesmaids and the maid of honor are the OGs, and they should lead if they can. But reality check: not every squad’s flush, and that’s where family swoops in (moms, aunts, you’re MVPs). Couples pitching in? Totally fair, especially for co-ed gigs. Crowdfunding’s a wildcard I love—spread the load, keep the love.
How do you dodge the drama? Start with a huddle. Maid of honor says, “I’ve got $100—what’s your vibe?” Family’s in? Let them nab the venue; bridesmaids can DIY the rest. Digital invites save bucks; a BYO snack bar saves sanity. Match the plan to the posse—low-key crew, low-key costs. Done right, it’s all grins, no grimaces.
Let’s crunch the numbers—love might be priceless, but the party space sure isn’t. Here’s how the costs can stack up:
A sweet little DIY gathering could wrap up under $400. But a big catered bash for 40 guests? You’re looking at closer to $2,000. From what I’ve seen, costs typically fall between $250 and $2,500—my cousin nailed a patio party for $200, while a colleague splashed out $1,800 on a lakeside brunch.
So, who pays for the bridal shower? Tradition taps the bridesmaids, today’s world says “team effort,” and I’m betting on a flexible, fair split that fits your crowd. The bride’s the star—keep her glowing, the guests buzzing, and the wallets intact. Spilled tea on a shower payment twist? Drop it below—I’m all ears!
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Bust (inch) | 32 | 33 | 34 | 35 | 36 | 37 ½ | 39 | 41 | 43 ¼ | 45 ½ | 47 ¾ | 50 | 53 | 56 | 59 | 63 |
Waist (inch) | 25 ½ | 26 ½ | 27 ½ | 28 ½ | 29 ½ | 31 | 32 ½ | 34 ¾ | 37 ¼ | 39 ¾ | 42 ¼ | 44 ¾ | 48 | 51 ¼ | 54 ½ | 58 ¾ |
Hips (inch) | 35 ½ | 36 ½ | 37 ½ | 38 ½ | 39 ½ | 41 | 42 ½ | 44 ½ | 46 ¾ | 49 | 51 ¼ | 53 ½ | 56 ½ | 59 ½ | 62 ½ | 66 ½ |
Bust (cm) | 81 | 84 | 86 | 89 | 91 | 95 | 99 | 104 | 110 | 116 | 121 | 127 | 135 | 142 | 150 | 160 |
Waist (cm) | 65 | 67 | 70 | 72 | 75 | 79 | 83 | 88 | 95 | 101 | 107 | 114 | 122 | 130 | 138 | 149 |
Hips (cm) | 90 | 93 | 95 | 98 | 100 | 104 | 108 | 113 | 119 | 124 | 130 | 136 | 144 | 151 | 159 | 169 |
US Size | UK Size | Bust (in) | Waist (in) | Hips (in) |
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US0 | UK4 | 32 | 25 ½ | 35 ½ |
US2 | UK6 | 33 | 26 ½ | 36 ½ |
US4 | UK8 | 34 | 27 ½ | 37 ½ |
US6 | UK10 | 35 | 28 ½ | 38 ½ |
US8 | UK12 | 36 | 29 ½ | 39 ½ |
US10 | UK14 | 37 ½ | 31 | 41 |
US12 | UK16 | 39 | 32 ½ | 42 ½ |
US14 | UK18 | 41 | 34 ¾ | 44 ½ |
US16 | UK20 | 43 ¼ | 37 ¼ | 46 ¾ |
US18 | UK22 | 45 ½ | 39 ¾ | 49 |
US20 | UK24 | 47 ¾ | 42 ¼ | 51 ¼ |
US22 | UK26 | 50 | 44 ¾ | 53 ½ |
US24 | UK28 | 53 | 48 | 56 ½ |
US26 | UK30 | 56 | 51 ¼ | 59 ½ |
US28 | UK32 | 59 | 54 ½ | 62 ½ |
US30 | UK34 | 63 | 58 ¾ | 66 ½ |
US Size | UK Size | Bust (cm) | Waist (cm) | Hips (cm) |
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US0 | UK4 | 81 | 65 | 90 |
US2 | UK6 | 84 | 67 | 93 |
US4 | UK8 | 86 | 70 | 95 |
US6 | UK10 | 89 | 72 | 98 |
US8 | UK12 | 91 | 75 | 100 |
US10 | UK14 | 95 | 79 | 104 |
US12 | UK16 | 99 | 83 | 108 |
US14 | UK18 | 104 | 88 | 113 |
US16 | UK20 | 110 | 95 | 119 |
US18 | UK22 | 116 | 101 | 124 |
US20 | UK24 | 121 | 107 | 130 |
US22 | UK26 | 127 | 114 | 136 |
US24 | UK28 | 135 | 122 | 144 |
US26 | UK30 | 142 | 130 | 151 |
US28 | UK32 | 150 | 138 | 159 |
US30 | UK34 | 160 | 149 | 169 |
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